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crystalcazzieThis is a depressing post to start the year on, but I feel I should explain why I've been away for a while. And it's probably good for me to get my thoughts down here:
A couple of days before Christmas we found out that Dad has liver cancer. So I’ve spent the last week feeling like someone has stabbed me in the chest and I can’t breathe.
The first doctor we spoke to was very pessimistic, basically telling us there was nothing to be done but to go away and die. Dad made an appointment with another doctor who was a bit less bleak, giving him a referral to an oncologist. There’s going to be some sort of meeting on Monday where a group of doctors are going to look at his case and see if any treatments are viable.
I’m still devastated cos I know that any treatment at this point is going to be about prolonging the time he has left rather than curing the cancer. And any time that’s less than 20-30 years is not fucking enough for me.
But at the moment I’m just desperately hoping something can be done to keep him with us as long as possible.
A couple of days before Christmas we found out that Dad has liver cancer. So I’ve spent the last week feeling like someone has stabbed me in the chest and I can’t breathe.
The first doctor we spoke to was very pessimistic, basically telling us there was nothing to be done but to go away and die. Dad made an appointment with another doctor who was a bit less bleak, giving him a referral to an oncologist. There’s going to be some sort of meeting on Monday where a group of doctors are going to look at his case and see if any treatments are viable.
I’m still devastated cos I know that any treatment at this point is going to be about prolonging the time he has left rather than curing the cancer. And any time that’s less than 20-30 years is not fucking enough for me.
But at the moment I’m just desperately hoping something can be done to keep him with us as long as possible.
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Date: 2016-01-04 12:38 am (UTC)I'm sorry to hear this news. This is more than just random sympathy; in October, I found out that my father has Stage IV cancer. So I know all too well what you are going through.
If you would like to talk -- if it would help at all -- please let me know and we can arrange something.
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Date: 2016-01-05 06:04 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2016-01-05 06:15 pm (UTC)About Dad: It's hard to know just yet how he is doing. The prostate cancer seems to be sorted, but it had spread to four bones before it was detected. So that's not good at all. The final chemo treatment is tomorrow. He hasn't been well, but I know that's the effects of the chemo, rather than the cancer itself. In three weeks, he will go for CT scans of the bones. We are all waiting for the results on 1st February, to learn how well the chemo took.
Until then, I will be hoping for the best but also bracing for the worst.
Thank you for asking.
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Date: 2016-01-05 07:33 pm (UTC)I know that feeling. We found out the result of the meeting today, which was that there's nothing they can offer. Dad's not giving up and has an appointment with a private doctor on Thursday, but I'm terrified he's going to say the same thing.
I hope your father's results are good.
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Date: 2016-01-05 10:45 pm (UTC)Good on him for not giving up yet, and best of luck on Thursday. If you're up for it, please let me know how it goes.
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Date: 2016-01-07 07:25 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2016-01-07 11:05 pm (UTC)Fingers crossed for the results. I'll be thinking of you and your father, for whatever that's worth.